Keep Moving Forward – The Road Ahead

Keep Moving Forward – The Road Ahead

A few blog posts ago I wrote about how life was like a road and to some extent it is.

If life is a road – albeit a non-linear road but a road nonetheless – then we are faced with three options: stay still, go back or keep moving forward.

A road can lead to another road and another road and inevitably lead to the destination.  The destination with any journey is different for every person though, arguably, the journey is the most important aspect.

Staying Still

I said that staying still leads to the possibility of not developing, but can this actually be the opposite? Staying still allows for reflection and on a journey to a goal, self-reflection and self-assessment can be a key ingredient. 

Three questions that should be asked: what? So what? And, now what?

Developed by John Driscoll asking these questions can help a person make a decision about a goal if they have any worries.


Asking what can allow a person to think about their decision. This could be: why am I down this path? Is this the right thing for me? These questions and others like them can be used in a reflective context to help a person see why and how they are on this journey.

So what?

Analyzing the event or even process can help in two ways: re-evaluating the decision to help you understand why you are where you are. This is true if you are in a place where you have doubts. You can secondly re-live. Was there something that happened which held you back? Was their a decision you made that could have been negative when you thought is was a positive one? How can these be turned around? So what is important in so many ways. It is the start of putting your ideas into place to get back on track. It is the beginning of a path to help you continue on your journey

 Now what?

Can be a difficult question. When you have thought of the event or decision and analysed it, what is next? Next is go on. Next is use what you know and what you didn’t know to not make the same mistake/s twice.

Going Back

Going back can be attractive to someone especially if they have lost their way.  The thought of starting again, almost setting the reset button can make a person feel better. A mind frame that has often baffled me is this notion of  someone saying ‘I am going back to the old me’. By pretending they are: ‘going back to the old me’ often implies they have made some kind of mistake. By going back to this old version, a person will believe that they can possibly escape mistake and failure by re-visiting a more successful version of themselves. The question that should be asked is: was this version actually successful? Just because we have a view that by re-visiting a person who we deemed successful doesn’t mean it was. 

Going back can prevent as many unknowns as going forward but relatively cannot be unchanged.

The past cannot be changed. The future is in your power – Unknown

It is best to leave the past in the past; walking down it can be dangerous, though it is ok to glance at it from time to time. Don’t concentrate on who you were especially if you feel lost or struggling. Concerntrate on who you are and who you could be. Moving forward is the key to success. The good times were good and going forward can create more good times.

Going Forward

If you do not step forward, you will always be in the same place – unknown

Often moving forward seems simple – plot a target or path and go towards it – and it is! 

What actually is the most difficult and as Erin Pavilina says her blog The Importance of letting Go is the ‘anchor’ everyone holds on to. Everyone holds on to something in the past and this deters them from going forward. She actually then goes on to say that the past is the past and we should let it go. This is true. Letting go of any anchored past will allow for change. This will give a clear mind and conscience to help tackle any problems that will come from the unknown path ahead. The past is never going to change but it can repeat itself. 

The future that has not happened yet, but compared to the past it is something that we can change.  Using the past can give the foresight needed to walk into the unknown. This can be from learning from mistakes to prevent us from doing them again or to help us build ourselves up. 

The road to the end is difficult but nothing in life is easy. If it was easy then it wouldn’t be worth striving for. Staying still can help with reflection, but staying still to long can lead to others around advance. They will then be at the end of their journey while you are stuck in the same place. Going back is dangerous as there will be no progress made. Letting go of the anchor of the past is beneficial. The future is scary but that is exciting. It can be, but it is up to you. It is up to you to see how far down the road you go and if you make it to your destination.

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Blog #10 What am I doing?

Blog #10 What am I doing?

Ever had those moments when you don’t know what you’re doing in life?
This is one of those moments for me. I started this blog in January to make myself more creative. In the beginning it was just that. I had a wave of fulfilment in life and felt disciplined again. This platform made me feel like I was going somewhere and doing something.

Now, I have hit a fork in the road. What was something which I was going to post about weekly has turned into every other week.

So what has happened? In the beginning I didn’t know. I had ideas and ideas but I didn’t write about them. I had challenges that I was going to set myself to complete and write about. I have written and deleted a few posts I have not been happy with. 

Is it writers block or is it much more?

I have often mocked ‘creaters’ or writers who appear to be having an existential crisis with writing or creating yet appear to be in that category.

So what now? 

I think the problem is that maybe I don’t believe what I am writing is good enough. Or, maybe I lack a subject or topic to write about. 

Should I do continue to write every week? Or should I write when I have something to talk about or say? 

We will see

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Blog #9: Battling On The Frontline

One thing I battle with on a daily basis is is the dreaded P word: procrastination.

Procrastination is the bane of my existence like I am sure it is for many people. I will often get waves of productivity where I will makes a list of things to do. Then, when it comes to completing this list – I put it off.  I will often make excuses. I’ll will tell myself: ‘I will do it tomorrow’, ‘I’ll do it in an hour’ or the ever classic ‘I’ll do it it a minute’. Even at the time of writing this blog post I have put off doing it for three hours.

The thing is procrastistation I see is a battle. It is the thing on my mind all the time. Unless I really invest my time by burying my head into what I need to, I will procrastinate. 

But is procrastination a bad thing? Or is it your subconscious telling you to put off the stuff that doesn’t matter and to do the things that do matter? 

Actually if you procrastinate by putting off a project or piece of work, the pressure can motivate you to do well. On the other hand, it doesn’t work for everyone. It also will create more work to-do in a time space where more time is necessary.

More featuring cons of procrastination is anxiety and disorganisation which can lead to a project or work not being the best. Thus setting the procrastinator to fail.

To no procrastinate we have to discipline ourselves, set deadlines and stick to them. My deadline for a blog usually is to start on a Monday and finish by a Thursday. Sometimes this may not be the case. From me I should be on Blog #11 by now but haven’t due to procrastination. I often think I write a blog post to procrastinate!

So whatever makes you procrastinate look it in the face and go to war with it. Defeat it and progress.

Or you can do it later.

Blog #8: When will it be my time?

Blog #8: When will it be my time?

We have all asked the question: ‘When will it be my time’ at one point or another. We wait for opportunity to hit us but that is never the case.

Yes, in some instances this may happen. Opportunity at work or in life may come at unexpected times. But how often does will opportunity come knocking? Is waiting for it the right thing? 

Make your own opportunity don’t look for it!
Your time is now, not later

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Blog #6: ‘Do More’:Why you are the problem to achieving your goals

Blog #6: ‘Do More’:Why you are the problem to achieving your goals

Sometimes in life there are moments where you feel down. You feel out of luck and think the world is against you. You have a goal but you don’t seem to be getting there. The problem isn’t the world or others – it’s you!

Here’s why it might be you who getting in the way of achieving your goals.


When I was younger I hated criticism. It used to make me feel like I was incapable of doing anything. I took criticism personally and never acted on it. I just assumed I was not able in the task and left it there. I then would go to the next thing and continue doing as before and the same result would happen. I never progressed.

I have a rule: ignore praise and embrace criticism. I never seek a compliment, it’s generally a dead end – Casey Neistat

Criticism is more valuable then praise, and it should be embraced. Criticism is telling you what you are not doing. It will also tell you how to get to the finish line.

If you want to do something and you want to do it badly, you need to concentrate on getting the bad good and the good even better. Criticism and critique will help that. Next time someone gives you some criticism, see it as a positive.

Everything you do will not be perfect and even if it is, it can be critiqued. Everyone has a opinion on how something can be perfected. It is up to you to decide if it is good advice or not. Now, this maybe contradictory but some criticism is not useful. If you are doing an essay for example and your teacher who is an expert in the field criticises your essay- their critique can be trusted. It can be trusted because it is given in a constructive capacity. They want you to succeed and they are only trying to advance you. If someone with no expertise critiques your essay but has no experience in the field criticises you, or if you write something online and a person who comments on it is a troll, ignore it! It is all about moving forward and listening to negative opinions and opinions with no knowledge to back them up will keep you back.


Having talked in more detail about this in a previous blog post (The Void or Montony) I will only summarise on why comfort will keep you from your goals.

Comfort in some sense is playing it safe. You know what you are doing, you know what tomorrow holds and the next week and possibly the next year. When you the actually step back to look, you realise that your life is 10 or 20 years down the line and you are not where you imagine yourself to be. Just because you are comfortable.

To combat this you need to take risk. Take steps to achieve what you want to do. Ask yourself every week: ‘Am I close to where I want to be?’ If it is no, then change it. With one life, it is the time you use that is important.

Keep Looking Forward

If life is a road- albeit a non-linear road but a road nonetheless- then we are faced with three options: stay still, go back or keep moving forward.

Will it be difficult? Of course. Will you want to quit sometimes? Yes. It is up to you. If you look back and you hold on to past success at some point, you will wonder where the magic went. If you stay still you risk the possibility of not developing yourself. But, if you move forward only glancing at the past, using it to help you along the road and move forward, you can succeed. 

The Little Steps

Having a goal or ambition is amazing. If you are at a point in your life where you need change and you are going to be pro-active about it – good for you!

You know the finish line and you have to take the first step. The first step is to plan and instead of planning the whole journey, it needs to be broken up into smaller achieveable goals. Then, if posssible, make those small goals into even smaller goals. This takes planning and time but is crucial. 

The first step should be going from the end backwards. If you wanted to be a blogger for example begin by writing in the middle of a paper ‘ I want to be a blogger’.

Around that should be things like: What should I write about? Who is my audience? How will I reach out to my audience? What is my style? Can I use pictures of the Internet? Do I need to do research on a topic? Can I earn from this? Looking at these things and setting a path will help.

Next is to set a time limit for these tasks. This also means that you will have to look at your steps and distinguish the big tasks from the small ones. A time limit for these will help complete them and discipline yourself to finish them.

Growth vs Fixed Mindset

The theory of Growth and Fixed Mindset by Caroline Dweck sums up perfectly some of our attitudes in life.

Fixed Mindset: Is the mindset where a person accepts who they are. There talents, traits, intelligence are fixed. They see themselves as being at a level that they cannot extend. They are fixed there and that is where they remain. If they see a wall and believe they cannot get over it because they’re small, they will not attempt to get over it because they see themselves as fixed.

Growth Mindset: Is the opposite of fixed mindset. It is where a person will not see themselves a certain way. They see their abilities, talents and intelligence as sonething that can be changed. If they are given an obstacle they will have the mindset that they can control it. If these people see a wall that they can’t get over because they are small, they will find a way to help them get over the wall and succeed. 

We all are arguably guilty of having a fixed mindset especially when it comes to work. Growth mindset is a mindset that can be arguably achieved by everyone if they want something. If you feel at some point that you have a fixed mindset when are striving for your goal, then maybe it’s not for you. If it is something you want to achieve then sticking with a growth mindset in the tough times will help you strive.

 Do More

The attitude you have is a defining feature in the successes of your life as well as the failures. When it gets hard, pushing past the fixed mindset attitude and embracing criticism to guide you will help you to get closer to your goals. It doesn’t matter who you are, you are the person to blame if you don’t get to where you are going. Now, others can factor into this but how much you allow them will be down to you. The first step is yours to take. Will you take it?

 (Featured image of Casey Neistat taken from LinkedIn)